An Excellent Example

A profile I once read on a dating site said, "Turn on's: Guys who don't know how cute they are."  When I first read it, I thought it was a silly thing to say.  It seemed so doubly subjective.  I mean, your subjectivity over how they subjectively viewed themselves.  It seemed too complicated to sort out.

Then I met a guy over the weekend (straight as is often the case) and that comment totally made sense.  This guy was young (early 20's), cute, driven, hard working, smart, principled.  All that and no girlfriend.  When we talked about it, he seemed to infer that it was hard for him to find one.  I thought, "Are you fucking kidding me?  If girls today are turning down guys like this they are s-t-u-p-i-d!"  His modesty was an aphrodisiac for me.  Shit, everyone liked the guy!

So I guess I can now add that to my list of turn-ons too.  The problem with clearly identifying what you want is that it makes it much more likely that you won't get it.  The balance is figuring out what can be traded without trading too much.

If there really is such a thing as the six degrees of separation, let's get moving people!  (Kevin Bacon, where are you when I need you?)  Find me a guy like this weekend!  In the meantime, I'm going to do more than like him, I'm going to do my best to be like him since he was an excellent example of what I want in a partner but he also set an example for how to lead a humble, giving life.  I guess sometimes God sends examples.